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Student of Social Media & PR

Online Dating November 18, 2010

I’m a single girl and its tough out here to find a semi-decent person to date soooo, I once again decided to try another online dating site (a free one that was recommended by a friend). It seems as though all the people on there are just looking for sex. I mean all types of freaks with crazy fetishes come out on these sites. The funny part about these sex fiends is that they get offended when your actually looking for a relationship. They seem appalled when you turn them down or say “hey I’m actually just looking for a date.” Like someone to go have dinner with or go to the movies with. Let’s be Frank (or Joe), women can have sex just about anytime and almost anyone, so why would I go on an online dating website to look for a sex partner? That’s for people who can’t pick up people solely based on their looks. No offense but it’s the truth. Another observation: the same people from other sites with the same pictures and the same information. It’s been years since I was on one of these sites so how can I bump into the same people? That confirms that they are just looking for new booty to smash. I’m not saying that there aren’t women on there looking for fresh meat but I’m just not one of them. And the more you advertise that your not looking for sex the less they believe you. It’s like that’s a code for “looking for a sex partner.” Am I missing something? Am I really that naive? Are these sites used for sex? Another major observation: insecure men! These men who don’t believe that I’m really single. They think something is  wrong with me. No kids, no man, never been married doesn’t always equal crazy/damaged goods. I find that only insecure men ask those types of questions. My problem or issue is very simple: I just can’t find a suitable mate. What’s a girl to do?! Is there no other option? Is it different on those paying sites?

P.S. This is not a female looking for male sex partner ad!


Promoting Video Clips On YouTube

Yes there actually is a strategy for YouTube that goes way beyond tags. You must know how to publish and promote your video clips. Here is the advice my teacher gave me (just realized I never posted it). Hope it helps!!!

  1. Always create a customized channel for you clients/company
    • Channel = the home page for an account. Customize background and color scheme.  Match brand’s visual identify
  2. Create custom content for YouTube
    • It is not good enough to simply add television-advertising spot for your client/company.
    • Create custom content that matches the style and format of YouTube.
  3. Tag and categorize all of your clips
    • Choose the category for your video clip carefully. Use carefully selected “Tags” = Keywords that describe a video.
  4. Promote your video with YouTube E-mail and bulletins
    • Leverage bulletins to post short messages to your channel or on other users pages.
    • Bulletins let you send updates to all of your subscribers directly from your channel.
    • Use a bulletin to announce your latest video, reinforce its message or even ask for feedback.
  5. Video Responses:  Don’t Ignore Social Currency of YouTube
  6. REMEMBER to utilize Key Social Media Goals Of:
    • Building Goodwill
    • Extending Focused Outreach
    • Relationship Building
    • Audience Engagement
  7. Join YouTube Groups
  8. Have Fun, Too – Think Entertaining Viewers
    • Your customers/target audience is typically looking to be entertained when on YouTube.  Have fun with the clips you post.
    • Clips should be engaging enough that they encourage users to share the clip with others YouTube Subscribers
  9. Think of these subscribers the same way you would think of your followers on Twitter or your fans on Facebook.

  • Nurture relationships with them.
  • Best way to build subscribers is to publish quality video clips, encourage commenting on those clips, and subscribe to others, as well.
  • Sharing clips on other social media platforms also works to help build goodwill, increase views and get more subscribers.



All Sex and No Commitment October 11, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — Vanesa @ 8:14 PM
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I think the hardest relationships to end are the ones with the sexual flames! You know which ones they are. The sex, amazing! Things are easily ignored and way too easily resolved. Before you know it all you have is a sex-relationship and the years are just flying by. Now that’s kinda of derailed you from finding someone else because you already have someone you have sex with, so all you really need is a meal and a movie. I think everyone has someone that they just have a sexual relationship with. You’ve been seeing each other for years, whether either one of you are in another relationship or not. Maybe, maybe not. Sometimes its the case where you guys just pretend your in a relationship together, when your together. Its like unspoken. Nobody mentions being with someone else but you kinda figure. My question is: how do you end something like that? Someone is going to get hurt. Can you really just have sex with someone for years and have no feelings involved? And when is enough, enough?

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love stinks October 9, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — Vanesa @ 6:47 PM
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So, today I’ve spent the day analyzing and over analyzing my disastrous supposed love life. I seriously have met some “awesome” guys (none of who like me) and “nightmare” guys. I know it ain’t easy out there….but seriously I think there’s a drought of single, working men. Right now I’m crushing on a crush. I feel like something is gonna go super sour if we hook up. Plus I don’t even know if he likes me, like that. And I know I’m not being cool about it because I really can’t control myself. Most interesting dude I’ve met in a long time. Plus it always seems like the ones you really like, never like you. What should I do? Its so easy for me to fall in and out of love, or is that lust? I would like to be in a relationship but its slim pickings out there.
I’m also thinking of a past love, who everyone else would LOVE for us to be together, but we can’t. We are perfect for each other but not in this lifetime. Its like we know each other so well, there’s nothing hidden, and I feel that that’s our downfall. We have seen the worse and best of each other, and its kinda weird, liberating, and judgment free (to some extent). So its also like there’s nothing left. Maybe? Well at this point its also a tad bit too late for us. He’s in a “committed” relationship.
So its on to the next one. As for the crush, I think I’m just gonna let it take its own course. That is until I get the courage to do something about it. I’ve taken that approach before and I feel like men mistake that for “she just wants to have sex.” But that’s so not the case, at least not always. So what to do, what to do?

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long time October 8, 2010

Filed under: influence,Social Media,Uncategorized — Vanesa @ 2:04 PM

It’s been awhile since I’ve done a blog entry, mainly because school is over and I passed the class that I started this blog for. But now I feel a need to talk. Lately its been really bothering that I’m all over the internet. And by all over I’m talking about all the things I’ve signed up for and hardly ever used, like Hi5. Who’s on Hi5? Shit, who’s on Oovoo? No one of importance that’s who? I just deleted my Myspace page just because no one but upcoming artist and very irrelevant people are on here. It just felt like a chore going on there and cleaning out my mailbox, all these wackass party promos…pointless!!! So I finally just said why the hell am I torturing myself. I’m kind of feeling the same way about Facebook…its too invasive. Now don’t get me wrong I’m just as nosy as everyone else…I wanna see the pictures and whether your in a relationship and if so, with who? So I kind of feel that my Spanish side needs these bits of information. I don’t wanna do what those in serious denial do, “hey let me go on your page so I can see so and so.” C’mon that’s wack. I would love to use something that would clear my internet history. Like the time I thought it would be a good idea to join BlackPlanet. What a disaster/nightmare!!

So what to do? Who knows? Anyone?


Quit Facebook Day!! May 18, 2010

Filed under: Facebook,influence,Social Media,Uncategorized — Vanesa @ 11:57 PM
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May 31st is the big day! And it’s not just Memorial Day. On May 31st we are supposed to be boycotting Facebook. It’s Quit Facebook Day! And thus far 5,496 are committed to quit Facebook. I know this might be a shock for all you die-hard Facebook lovers, for me not so much, and your first thought is why! It’s the privacy issue. The lack of intent and respect that Facebook has for our data. They give us no option on how they use our personal data. Meaning: they can sell or dispense our information to any company that gives them a dollar!

Your probably thinking, “so what?!” A few people quitting Facebook isn’t such a big deal. But it’s actually more than a few people. Many web industry leaders are also quitting Facebook and finding new alternatives to communicate to people. Check out who and what their saying: More Web Industry Leaders Quit Facebook, Call For Open Alternative

Honestly, I don’t know if I would quit Facebook, even though I don’t like it very much. I’m still on MySpace. I don’t use it very often but as someone in the Social Media field I feel that its necessary to be apart of as many mediums as you can manage. But I’ll keep you posted as to whether I’ll quit Facebook, it’s just that I have so many family members on there. So I’ll see what I’ll do.

For more info check out: Quit Facebook Day


Vlog/Vloggers May 16, 2010

Vlogging is a new trend in the social media world, and its taking off. “A vlog is a video log – a video record, or journal, or progress report.” The term vlog stems from it’s origins from the term blog. For a further and more in depth define click here:  What is a Vlog?

Vlogging is transforming the way some companies are doing business, especially in house business. They are being used for executive speeches, memos, and presentations.

If you choose to make your own vlog make sure that your speech is clear and concise. Depending on what your vlog is about, you should be mindful of your background and background noise. Also, remember to make it entertaining. No one, including myself, wants to watch a boring vlog or any type of video.

Here are some more tips on how to create a Vlog: “How to make your 1st Vlog.”